All Hail…The Grooms!

Anyone who watched the Grammy’s on Sunday more than likely witnessed the mass wedding ceremony that included 33 couples, many of them same-sex. It was an epic display of equality that moved some people to tears. Afterwards, I was honored to be in attendance for the reception of Jamal Sims and Octavius Terry; two men who wed during the televised event. However, today’s blog is not about the wedding, or the Grammy’s, but about Queen Latifah.


As I perused through FB earlier this week I ran across a post that read “I’m done with Queen Latifah”. I paused and began to read because I thought she had committed some heinous crime against humanity or made malicious remarks about President Obama. However, what the individual was pertaining to was her involvement in the marriage ceremony. Now, last I checked her work in music, film, and television has earned her a Golden Globe award, two Screen Actors Guild Awards, two Image Awards, a Grammy Award, six additional Grammy nominations, an Emmy Award nomination and an Academy Award nomination. All of this occurred before the 56th Annual Grammy Awards even aired; but I digress.

I’m amazed that despite all of her accolades and successes people are ready to dismiss her because she is in support of same-sex marriage. Oh, I failed to mention that the post was written by a Christian, and the 200+ comments that followed (mostly in support of the decision to leave her alone) were by Christians as well. I can easily go on a scriptural rant about this and start a biblical debate about homosexuality, but I’m not because I know some who respond to this blog will. Yet, I will say that I am convinced that God is not pleased by how quickly we toss His people to the side before consulting Him (there I’m done).

I have learned in my 42 years on Earth –and from dealing with church folks- that it is easier for some to condemn people to hell than it is to fathom the idea that Heaven may in fact be occupied by persons whom they never thought would make it. Wouldn’t it be ironic if the all the people who say “Gays ain’t going to Heaven, end up in Hell for saying ‘Gays ain’t going to Heaven’”?

Queen Latifah is not the problem; ignorance is: Ignorance about gays; human sexuality; and unconditional love. Does her support of the gay marriage make her less talented? Is she an ‘abomination’ by association? If she steps in church on Sunday will the church refuse her generous monetary offering because she had the nerve to applaud love? What really does “I’m done with her mean”? I just wish that some of the people who are so quick to judge would pause for a moment and make some type of effort to find God in all of this; which He most definitely is. Let love abide.

To my friends Octavius and Jamal, thanks for following your hearts and living in truth. Uh oh, I guess some Christians are going to be done with me, now.  OctoJam

Click to see Jamal and Octavius interviewed on The Insider